A man plays 3 crucial roles in the family as husband, father and breadwinner.Eph 5:25 charges husbands to love their wives as Christ did the church (sacrifice).Also husbands are charged to love their wives they way they (husbands) love themselves (due care). Hence a husband provides a dual role as reflected in sacrifice and due care to the wife.
As a father, the man provides training and discipline to the children and in deed to the family.
As a breadwinner, the man should display the attributes of hardwork so that he can provide for the needs of the family and leave an inheritance to his children's children.
In playing the above roles, conflicts can occur. These conflicts may distablise the man.
If a man fails to balance these roles, several things may be affected:lack of time for the wife and childrenChild training, the romantic time with the wife, the man's position as the head of the family (both spiritually and physically), relationship with God, ineffective leadership at home,the woman may be overwhelmed or swamped, loss of honour or affection within the family. In addition, children especially male ones begin to see themselves as masters in the house and put undue pressure on their mothers, e.t.c.
The wife wants to look up to the man for their basic needs. If the man is not forthcoming, the woman might not feel fulfilled. When there is a conflict of these roles, even money will not solve the problem.The woman says or feels that the husband doesn't love her. It is simply as a result of the man's inability to balance these roles. Understand that wife and children are the most precious gifts from God and treat them as such.
The man of the house should make his presence felt in the home.Take the children out, play with them. Spend quality time with them and give them memories to ponder about when you are not there.
Spend time with your wife. Take her out once in a while or even on a regular basis. Talk about just anything. It can heal the wound that has been created over time. Don't procastinate. Do something right. Deliberately make time for the family.
In all things, a man should relate to his wife according to knowledge. In life, there are some areas where you need faith and others where you need to apply wisdom.
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Friday, January 2, 2009
Thursday, November 27, 2008
The substance of love
To the natural man or woman
There is substance in love.
That substance is the basis for love.
This substance of love is what you get
or expect to get from the relationship
When you discover that substance, you get attracted to it.
And they say you are in love!
It may be difficult to identify this substance until it is gone
This may explain why people recognise true love after they have lost it.
It is this substance that holds and sustains the relationship
And make it look real through thick and thin.
When it is no longer there,
You say you are no longer in love,
and you break up the relationship
implying that the substance oils the relationship.
To the supernatural man or woman
Love is a spiritual thing.
There is no basis, only substance.
That substance reflects in the things love give.
This explains why love is eternal
And will always be.
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it is all about relationships
There is substance in love.
That substance is the basis for love.
This substance of love is what you get
or expect to get from the relationship
When you discover that substance, you get attracted to it.
And they say you are in love!
It may be difficult to identify this substance until it is gone
This may explain why people recognise true love after they have lost it.
It is this substance that holds and sustains the relationship
And make it look real through thick and thin.
When it is no longer there,
You say you are no longer in love,
and you break up the relationship
implying that the substance oils the relationship.
To the supernatural man or woman
Love is a spiritual thing.
There is no basis, only substance.
That substance reflects in the things love give.
This explains why love is eternal
And will always be.
www.wetindeyforum.com
it is all about relationships
when it feels like it is not working
We all hit this spot once in a while in every marriage or relationship.At that stage in a marriage or a relationship when it seems not to be working.When all hope seems gone, all attempts to make it work seems to hit the brickwall.When one party seems not to be interested in what's going on.When the relationship seems to be on the verge of packing up.Is this the time to quit?Is this not the time to review the relationship and evaluate what is and what is not?Is this not the time to look at the relationship for what it really is ?Is this not the time to do a self evaluation and identify one's roles, strength and weaknesses or failingsin the relationship?Some will say, it is the time to look up to God, the home front and the family to intervene.Relationships are golden and should be treated as such. There is more to gain from a good relationship than to loose.It makes better sense to review the questions above before taking a hasty decision. All may no really be as it seems. Some people in relationships might be deceived by external or extraneous factors, some by forces wanting to destroy them or the relationship, by some grief, greed, or unidentified causes.Whatever it is, always remember that the grass may not necessarily be greener out there. Every relationship has its ups and down. What appears grievous today may seem like child's play tomorrow, and you may begin to wonder why it was such a big deal to you.
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it is all about relationships
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it is all about relationships
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
3 SIGNS THAT HE'S INTERESTED IN YOU
He Makes Good Eye Contact
Since guys are visual, it goes without saying that they stare at women whom they find attractive. This is significant because, as a general rule of thumb, men tend to avoid prolonged eye contact because of its threatening nature (think Alpha Male stuff).
In addition, every man can tell you a story of some woman he was nice to, who misinterpreted his kindness as an indication of romantic interest. If you ask 100 men why they are so guarded about giving a woman the wrong impression, the answer is simple, “Because she might not leave.”
How to respond: When you notice his gaze, simply smile back while maintaining eye contact for a couple of seconds and then quickly look away. This simple gesture is all the invitation he’ll need to approach you.
He’ll Listen to You
Need I mention that men hate being bored. Women don’t prefer it, but men detest it. Nothing is more boring to most men than being trapped in a conversation with someone who doesn’t interest them.
If you were to ask how you can tell if you are the woman who is holding him hostage, relax. Most men won’t listen long enough for that to happen to you. If he’s listening to you talk about your work, friends or other interests for more than 5 minutes, he’s interested in you.
How to Respond: Remember that the person doing the talking is NOT in control. The listener is in control. You want the conversation centered on him so that you can begin training him to be emotionally dependent on you.
Men always find women who listen to them to be irresistible. When you are listening, be sure to make eye contact with him occasionally. Most women can easily do two things at once, so resist the urge to listen and look elsewhere.
Without some eye contact, you may hear what he’s saying, but you won’t look like you care.
He Frequents Your Friends
Most men know that if you simply approach a woman and give her a “yes” or “no” question, you only have a 50/50 chance of her saying yes, or worse. Therefore, the clever guys are those who slowly infiltrate your inner circle of friends because they know if your friends like them, they have a better chance with you.
Don’t be threatened if you see a guy strike up a conversation with one of your girlfriends. Yes, he may just be interested in her and not you, but there is a good chance you are the primary target.
As a guy gets to know your friends, it becomes easier for him to approach both of you in the future.
How to Respond: If you notice him talking to one of your gal pals, don’t approach them too quickly. In fact, don’t approach them at all. Act as though you didn’t notice them speaking and maintain your distance.
The next time you are with that friend, stay close to her and he’ll be able to approach you, through her.
Since guys are visual, it goes without saying that they stare at women whom they find attractive. This is significant because, as a general rule of thumb, men tend to avoid prolonged eye contact because of its threatening nature (think Alpha Male stuff).
In addition, every man can tell you a story of some woman he was nice to, who misinterpreted his kindness as an indication of romantic interest. If you ask 100 men why they are so guarded about giving a woman the wrong impression, the answer is simple, “Because she might not leave.”
How to respond: When you notice his gaze, simply smile back while maintaining eye contact for a couple of seconds and then quickly look away. This simple gesture is all the invitation he’ll need to approach you.
He’ll Listen to You
Need I mention that men hate being bored. Women don’t prefer it, but men detest it. Nothing is more boring to most men than being trapped in a conversation with someone who doesn’t interest them.
If you were to ask how you can tell if you are the woman who is holding him hostage, relax. Most men won’t listen long enough for that to happen to you. If he’s listening to you talk about your work, friends or other interests for more than 5 minutes, he’s interested in you.
How to Respond: Remember that the person doing the talking is NOT in control. The listener is in control. You want the conversation centered on him so that you can begin training him to be emotionally dependent on you.
Men always find women who listen to them to be irresistible. When you are listening, be sure to make eye contact with him occasionally. Most women can easily do two things at once, so resist the urge to listen and look elsewhere.
Without some eye contact, you may hear what he’s saying, but you won’t look like you care.
He Frequents Your Friends
Most men know that if you simply approach a woman and give her a “yes” or “no” question, you only have a 50/50 chance of her saying yes, or worse. Therefore, the clever guys are those who slowly infiltrate your inner circle of friends because they know if your friends like them, they have a better chance with you.
Don’t be threatened if you see a guy strike up a conversation with one of your girlfriends. Yes, he may just be interested in her and not you, but there is a good chance you are the primary target.
As a guy gets to know your friends, it becomes easier for him to approach both of you in the future.
How to Respond: If you notice him talking to one of your gal pals, don’t approach them too quickly. In fact, don’t approach them at all. Act as though you didn’t notice them speaking and maintain your distance.
The next time you are with that friend, stay close to her and he’ll be able to approach you, through her.
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