Balancing the crucial roles of husband,father and breadwinner

A man plays 3 crucial roles in the family as husband, father and breadwinner.Eph 5:25 charges husbands to love their wives as Christ did the church (sacrifice).Also husbands are charged to love their wives they way they (husbands) love themselves (due care). Hence a husband provides a dual role as reflected in sacrifice and due care to the wife.
As a father, the man provides training and discipline to the children and in deed to the family.
As a breadwinner, the man should display the attributes of hardwork so that he can provide for the needs of the family and leave an inheritance to his children's children.
In playing the above roles, conflicts can occur. These conflicts may distablise the man.
If a man fails to balance these roles, several things may be affected:lack of time for the wife and childrenChild training, the romantic time with the wife, the man's position as the head of the family (both spiritually and physically), relationship with God, ineffective leadership at home,the woman may be overwhelmed or swamped, loss of honour or affection within the family. In addition, children especially male ones begin to see themselves as masters in the house and put undue pressure on their mothers, e.t.c.
The wife wants to look up to the man for their basic needs. If the man is not forthcoming, the woman might not feel fulfilled. When there is a conflict of these roles, even money will not solve the problem.The woman says or feels that the husband doesn't love her. It is simply as a result of the man's inability to balance these roles. Understand that wife and children are the most precious gifts from God and treat them as such.
The man of the house should make his presence felt in the home.Take the children out, play with them. Spend quality time with them and give them memories to ponder about when you are not there.
Spend time with your wife. Take her out once in a while or even on a regular basis. Talk about just anything. It can heal the wound that has been created over time. Don't procastinate. Do something right. Deliberately make time for the family.
In all things, a man should relate to his wife according to knowledge. In life, there are some areas where you need faith and others where you need to apply wisdom.



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